Note To Self

Finding Your Happiness

There are times within our lives that we take a breath, and recognize that we are not in the place we imagine. We feel the weight of the burdens we have been carrying and find ourselves crumbling from exhaustion. The truth in life is that most of us have so much happiness within us, but we simply are not sure how to be happy. We surround ourselves with people we believe will bring joy and seek positions that will increase our value. It is easier to see a number and rationalize our worth, than recognizing our worth through the struggles, and complexities, we have fought through in life.

Railroad bridge at TVA trails is a perfect walk with views for miles.

We have to take a step back and realize that we are at our most powerful when we are transitioning. You will find strength within the most uncomfortable situations. You will begin to pick up small details that do not bring you joy. Knowing that to become a better you, means doing away with them, is even sometimes unsettling. The season you have entered will challenge you, and push your limits until you finally approach the growth you have been searching for.

TVA trails are perfect for a stroll.

You have to understand that no one can provide you with the love you deserve better than yourself. Once you learn to love yourself then you will find that most of your burdens that you have been carrying, were not yours to carry to begin with. The guilt that has been plaguing you has already been forgiven, and the pressure you have been planting inside your soul was merely self-mutilation, placed inside you by your own insecurities.

We are not perfect. Life is a constant battle to grow, and to learn who you are. This is something that you will eventually understand.

Think about how beautiful life is that we have the ability to become anew every so often. I am a different person than I was even a month ago. The continuing transformation is a beautiful thing. The wisdom we are gifted with can only benefit those around us. Readjusting our souls is something that I have learned to welcome. Recognizing my mind and working through my thoughts helps me be the mother and wife I yearn to become.

Views from TVA walking trail

One place I find soothing is taking a stroll outside. Not only is the scenery perfect but the nature surrounding me sooths my thoughts. The sun reflecting off the water seems to draw me in and calms my soul. There is just something so consuming about getting out in nature and seeing the life that is often overlooked. We are in such a fast paced society that sometimes we need to breath and reset. Find your place, whether it be a walk around your neighborhood, finding some hiking trails, or even finding some quiet time in a book.

Happiness can only be created, when you are happy.


You owe it to yourself to be happy. Find your inner strength and fight through your seasons. Remember that your story is constantly being rewritten and nothing is set in stone. Grow and learn. To live your best life you must be wiser than before and know that your best friend is the person reflected back in the mirror.

Author: Mary Swinney

Growing up in the Tri-Cities the love I had for the area tilted more towards how Id love to leave, rather than to see what the area had to offer. I didn't want to see at the time just how enchanting my hometown was. As soon as the chance arose my family and I made our way to Rhode Island. Once there we made some amazing life long friends, who took us in, and showed us just how proud they were of their state. It may be the smallest of all the states, but it was packed with charm and adventure. Each week we were visiting new restraunts, meeting new people, and visiting so many areas that I had only dreamed of. The residents were so proud of what they all had built together that it made me realize just how much I had missed out on back home. I have always been proud of my Southern Roots and I vowed that if God ever brought me back to my hometown I would make it my mission to explore the best it had to offer. I have been back for two years and have fallen in love with so many places. It is my mission now to bring my small town back to life and spread the word on how charming the Tri-Cities truly is.

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