Good Ole Days in Todays “Normal”

There has been no greater headache than raising two teenagers in todays society. I say this with so much love within my heart. Where there is love, there is heartache. Where there is joy, there are tears.

The amount of tiredness I feel daily as a mother is all consuming. There are moments within every day, where I find a semblance of peace watching my kids grow and learn within the teachings of my parenting. I would love nothing more than to say that life is perfect. I could write the words that every momma wants to hear (Parenting is easy.) But lets face the true reality of parenting, there is literally nothing easy about it.

Our children are living in a world that is changing drastically day to day. The good ole days are gone, and in its place is a world that tells us that our way of growing up is wrong. So wrong in fact, that it is made a sin to live by no other standard than the ones that they give us. Reality is, that I find myself wanting more of my raisings and less (much less) of the normalcy of todays World.

Trying to intermingle the “old days,” in with the “New Age” ways is a challenge for every parent raising their children in 2021. No matter how you put it, We are stressed and tired in the worst of ways. I find myself wanting a break more than I want air. Todays standards for parents are not only ridiculous, but unrealistic.

Raising kids is more than hard. It is all consuming. When do we quit laying in bed at night wondering if technology is ruining our kids? The exposure to the current state of the World is damaging to every household at best. I cant imagine the thoughts that must be stirring in our kids heads as they rest at night. The normalcy that is portrayed on the great World Web, is anything but normal. And the thought of trying to make our kids believe that this “Perfect” World is looking out for their best interest, is the scariest thing to a parent.

Really think about what is taught, not in your household, but behind the gadgets that every child has to have nowadays. It is not only affecting our kids, but it is making it so that our households are under minded. At the end of the day we have to have some sort of reprieve. The real reality is that we are living in a time where we are told that it is ok to expose our kids to a ridiculous amount of non-moral teachings, and then to tell us that it is “normal” because the internet has told us so, is absolutely a disservice to all of humanity.

When are we going to wake up and see that are our kids are just that kids. When are we going to open our eyes and stop putting the responsibilities on our kids that most adults cannot even deal with on a daily basis. Are we raising our kids to be adults…Yes 100%, but we also have to make sure that they have a childhood filled with child memories, instead of childhood memories filled with adult responsibilities.

Call me crazy but looking at my life, I smile at the memories. Playing chase with my cousins, fishing with my brother and sister, and whether or not I was going to get in trouble for putting a dent in my mothers car. Am I any less of a parent for wanting more than what I am assumed to do? Are you crazy for wanting to create a home enviroment fueled by love and peace, rather than chaos and uncertainty. I am done trying to appease what the World believes is supposed to be normal for a parent. Maybe, just maybe, the Good Ole Days were just that. When the days were good and the normalcy was what has made us value the importance of our responsibilities. And in parenthood in todays World, I will teach and honor the values taught through my childhood. I will not be taught to reprogram my life, or my children, to adhere to what the World considers “NORMAL.”

Author: Mary Swinney

Growing up in the Tri-Cities the love I had for the area tilted more towards how Id love to leave, rather than to see what the area had to offer. I didn't want to see at the time just how enchanting my hometown was. As soon as the chance arose my family and I made our way to Rhode Island. Once there we made some amazing life long friends, who took us in, and showed us just how proud they were of their state. It may be the smallest of all the states, but it was packed with charm and adventure. Each week we were visiting new restraunts, meeting new people, and visiting so many areas that I had only dreamed of. The residents were so proud of what they all had built together that it made me realize just how much I had missed out on back home. I have always been proud of my Southern Roots and I vowed that if God ever brought me back to my hometown I would make it my mission to explore the best it had to offer. I have been back for two years and have fallen in love with so many places. It is my mission now to bring my small town back to life and spread the word on how charming the Tri-Cities truly is.

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